From Fear to Freedom: Judy Sharp’s Inspiring Journey Out of Domestic Abuse
The Routine That Wasn’t Romantic
At 61, Judy Sharp from Brisbane, carries a life-altering story she’s willing to share to inspire others. Her then-husband Mick* never missed giving her flowers every Friday—52 weeks a year. While this might seem like a gesture of love, for Judy, it was a chilling reminder of her controlled and unhappy life.
“Not all acts of giving are gestures of love; some are methods of control,” Judy explains.
Living Under Constant Scrutiny
Things deteriorated further after the birth of their two sons. Mick became so paranoid that Judy was being unfaithful, he would tape the front and back doors to check if they had been tampered with. But what stung the most was being accused of being a bad mother.
The Breaking Point
One fateful night, Mick snapped a photo of Judy and their sons, telling them it would be the last night she’d be alive so that the boys would have a memory of her. Judy’s screams interrupted his menacing actions. The next morning, seizing the opportunity of his absence, she fled with her sons.
A Glimmer of Hope in Desperation
In the whirlwind of emotions and thoughts, Judy needed to find a place to stay. Her son Tim has severe autism, which made shelters an unviable option. She withdrew money for a bond and a week’s rent, and then they were gone.
“The moment I stepped into that new house, it felt as if a mountain had been lifted off my shoulders,” Judy recalls.
The Struggle and Triumph Over Time
Years passed, and the pain inflicted by Mick remained a dark chapter in their lives. Judy took it upon herself to ensure her sons would not inherit their father’s traits.
“Being kind is the most significant quality you can possess,” she would tell them.
Both her sons flourished: Sam, 30, almost made it to the Olympics as a swim coach, while Tim, 32, became a successful artist.
Sharing the Story to Light Others’ Way
Judy is adamant about sharing her story, especially on the anniversary of their escape, as a beacon of hope for others in similar situations. A few years ago, she found and shared the haunting photo Mick took, as a potent reminder that domestic violence is never acceptable.
“No child should have to grow up in an environment that is anything less than nurturing and loving,” Judy emphasizes.
She wants those who are still trapped in abusive relationships to know they are not alone and that life can indeed be better.
“There’s light at the end of the tunnel. You’re not alone; we made it through, and so can you,” Judy reassures.
*Mick’s name has been changed for privacy.
